We need both mothers and fathers.

young girl swings from her parents' arms, but the father character has been painted over in white so that only the mother and daughter are visible while the father figure is vacant in the photo

(photo compliments of dailymail.co.uk)

Of the people I know, I can tell you who has been raised without a father, or a mother, or in a home victim to divorce, without having ever asked the person.

The people in the above categories exhibit similar behaviors and conduct their lives similarly.

We frequently hear about women with “daddy problems” who grow up without father figures. These women seek male attention in all of the wrong ways and participate in risky behavior. People say, Oh haha! Her daddy didn’t hug her enough as a child! But any person missing either a mother figure or father figure is starved of essential information in life, and have problems maintaining healthy relationships forever.

I recently read, “Like Father, Like Son, and, Yes, Like Daughter” by Molly B. Koch inĀ Baltimore’s Child. It’s a good read about the importance of father figures.

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“I want you to be a father” says Lupe Fiasco in his track “He Say She Say”

(Image courtesy of http://rap.about.com/)

I’ve focused on bad parenting already, but there are many ways parents fail their children.

So far, I’ve mentioned parental failures in the yuppy/too busy/nonchalant category. These types of failures are the result of parents not understanding or dedicating the time and work it takes to discipline and teach children to be good people.

On another hand, some people are simply unprepared and ill equipped to take on the role of “parent.” Lupe Fiasco‘s track “He Say She Say” highlights this aspect and expresses, from the perspective of mother and son, the hardships of a young man growing up without a father figure.

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