We need both mothers and fathers.

young girl swings from her parents' arms, but the father character has been painted over in white so that only the mother and daughter are visible while the father figure is vacant in the photo

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Of the people I know, I can tell you who has been raised without a father, or a mother, or in a home victim to divorce, without having ever asked the person.

The people in the above categories exhibit similar behaviors and conduct their lives similarly.

We frequently hear about women with “daddy problems” who grow up without father figures. These women seek male attention in all of the wrong ways and participate in risky behavior. People say, Oh haha! Her daddy didn’t hug her enough as a child! But any person missing either a mother figure or father figure is starved of essential information in life, and have problems maintaining healthy relationships forever.

I recently read, “Like Father, Like Son, and, Yes, Like Daughter” by Molly B. Koch in Baltimore’s Child. It’s a good read about the importance of father figures.

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Women are not taught or expected to understand men in American culture

Before I potentially make anyone upset with the following, I’ll kick this discussion off by admitting that I have always been too selfish in relationships to bother with what the other person thought or wanted. I’m trying to change that.

Women are taught that we’re emotional (and that “it’s ok”), and that men aren’t. And men are taught not to be open about their emotions (big boys don’t cry and all that). So women are constantly taking up all the emotional support in a relationship and neglect their men.

It’s tough for women to understand how men operate emotionally because women just talk talk talk about it (to death) and men would rather not. It’s sets up this puzzle for women. It also makes it hard for women to recognize when their men are upset, and/or what could be upsetting them.

What’s the recovery plan?

Leave Sandra Bullock alone. Is it irresponsible of the people to reinforce the gossip industry and invade celebrity lives?

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If you’ve walked through a checkout line in the last few weeks, you’ll see pictures of a distraught Sandra Bullock splattered on the front pages of fluff gossip magazines. The big news in America: her husband Jesse James has been cheating. (Yes, this is the news we should be reading.)

I’m sure that after discovering that her husband of five years has been unfaithful, her utmost desire is to be photographed liberally and smeared across pages of substance-less magazine covers. Isn’t that what you want after a break-up or negative, dramatic life event?

Well, the truth is, it’s our fault that she has to put up with that kind of harassment.

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