We need both mothers and fathers.

young girl swings from her parents' arms, but the father character has been painted over in white so that only the mother and daughter are visible while the father figure is vacant in the photo

(photo compliments of dailymail.co.uk)

Of the people I know, I can tell you who has been raised without a father, or a mother, or in a home victim to divorce, without having ever asked the person.

The people in the above categories exhibit similar behaviors and conduct their lives similarly.

We frequently hear about women with “daddy problems” who grow up without father figures. These women seek male attention in all of the wrong ways and participate in risky behavior. People say, Oh haha! Her daddy didn’t hug her enough as a child! But any person missing either a mother figure or father figure is starved of essential information in life, and have problems maintaining healthy relationships forever.

I recently read, “Like Father, Like Son, and, Yes, Like Daughter” by Molly B. Koch in Baltimore’s Child. It’s a good read about the importance of father figures.

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Career dresses barely cover your bum.

I was shopping for dresses online at Forever21 (rare, trust me) and I click on the “career” category. These are the dresses that Forever21 categorizes as career:
3 rows of 5 female models in very short dresses, many sleeveless

A screenshot of dresses at Forever21.com

For what career are these appropriate?

Leggings are too casual to wear to work so how are you supposed to cover up the rest of your thigh?

In my opinion, these are nice shirts. Nice shirts you’d probably also put a sweater over for any career world. Well, not any career but, you know, the careers where your pay isn’t crumbled $1 bills.

My favorite has to be Ms. Retro Geometric Shirtdress in the bottom row, center. Not only is this dress barely skimming the bottom of her tush, but it’s a nude color. Just in case the being mostly naked isn’t enough, let’s look actually naked from a distance.

Nothing says “respect me” at the office like accidentally showing the bottom of your butt cheeks.

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Women are objects.

close up of woman's chest wearing a dress with a deep-v cut to her navel. lots of breast showing.

This woman is oiled up and barely covered on the cover of Cosmopolitan magazine.

The objectification of women? Media and men catch the blame for this one.

Media

The last time I walked down a magazine aisle, the magazines edited by and targeted for females had scantily-clad, made-up and exposed women on their covers. And they are the most successfully sold.

Do media present us with images that we adopt, or do media present us with images that we demand and reinforce? Do we expect a company to tank to avoid objectifying women?

Men

Plus, men are always blamed. It’s always men that objectify women. Walk around. Women are hanging all out there. You think people (not just horny men) aren’t going to look?

Women are responsible for objectifying themselves.

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Women are not taught or expected to understand men in American culture

Before I potentially make anyone upset with the following, I’ll kick this discussion off by admitting that I have always been too selfish in relationships to bother with what the other person thought or wanted. I’m trying to change that.

Women are taught that we’re emotional (and that “it’s ok”), and that men aren’t. And men are taught not to be open about their emotions (big boys don’t cry and all that). So women are constantly taking up all the emotional support in a relationship and neglect their men.

It’s tough for women to understand how men operate emotionally because women just talk talk talk about it (to death) and men would rather not. It’s sets up this puzzle for women. It also makes it hard for women to recognize when their men are upset, and/or what could be upsetting them.

What’s the recovery plan?

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