Women are objects.

close up of woman's chest wearing a dress with a deep-v cut to her navel. lots of breast showing.

This woman is oiled up and barely covered on the cover of Cosmopolitan magazine.

The objectification of women? Media and men catch the blame for this one.

Media

The last time I walked down a magazine aisle, the magazines edited by and targeted for females had scantily-clad, made-up and exposed women on their covers. And they are the most successfully sold.

Do media present us with images that we adopt, or do media present us with images that we demand and reinforce? Do we expect a company to tank to avoid objectifying women?

Men

Plus, men are always blamed. It’s always men that objectify women. Walk around. Women are hanging all out there. You think people (not just horny men) aren’t going to look?

Women are responsible for objectifying themselves.

woman hand holding her dress bottom up to the top of her thigh so her crotch is inches away from the hem

And in case there wasn't enough cleavage displayed, here's a teaser down below.

Leggings. Skin tight. Tanks. Low cut. Breasts billowing out. Short shorts. Make up. Mini skirts. Hair dye. Tanning.

Tell me women aren’t projecting an image that screams “who cares about my brain? Tell me I’m the sexiest girl you know.”

Just today, I’m walking down a Baltimore street in the Inner Harbor with two young women and a Mom of one of them. Both girls are wearing leggings as though they were pants.

woman in a white dress with a v-neck to her navel and holding up the bottom to almost her crotch

You're looking at her face, right?

Three guys are walking toward us. I watch as they all nudge each other, shamelessly turn to watch the girls walking by. One guy moans carnally and exclaims, “I love spandex.”

But men are pigs, right? I can’t lie. I was looking too. Couldn’t help it. It’s like a train wreck.

Women need to stand up for themselves if they want to earn respect back. Cover it up. Then people won’t stare and drool like you’re an object. They might have to listen to what you have to say. You might have to have something to say.

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4 Comments

  1. Great writing!
    Bravo!

    Choose Happiness & Success!
    Jennifer

  2. hmm, I have a hard time with this post. Yes, women should respect themselves.

    But I don’t want to place the blame all on the women. I feel like this kind of thinking is only one step away from “it’s her own fault she was raped, she shouldn’t have been wearing a short skirt and walked home alone at night.” Because it’s NEVER a girls FAULT that she gets raped.

    Back in the day, men were turned on by the sight of an ankle because it was forbidden. In some cultures/religions, women cover entirely up in order to not tempt or seduce the men. Maybe men should work on not being tempted by women? Bodies shouldn’t be tabu or objectified. Uggh, it’s a hard issue and I’m getting sidetracked.

    Either way, good topic to bring up!
    -C

    • Objectification is not as scary as rape, starting with the lack of physical harm. Random violent rape is horrifying and of course not to be blamed on women. But I could never connect rape to objectification. Rape is a violent act that will exist as long as any crime exists. Because there will always be bad people out there.

      But the widespread objectification we deal with today would not exist if women didn’t present it and reinforce it.

      But women do fuel it. It hurts us covertly, and we cry about it, but then women have breasts hanging out, bras visible and their butt dimples shining through leggings.
      People ARE going to look if you present it.

      Women aren’t respected for their minds or skills, and rarely attempt to impress men with their intellect. But again, if a woman presents herself as an object and then gets mad that she’s only seen as an object… see what I mean?

      What really makes me mad about all this is:
      I HATE HATE HATE HATE that men approach me with lines about being beautiful, or how I should be a model, or having a pretty face, great smile, BS, BS, BS. I couldn’t care less about a physical compliment. I know what I look like. But why should I blame men when 98% of women reinforce this approach?
      Why should they assume that I’m different?
      Men act a certain way and get rewarded. Their behavior is reinforced with very positive rewards.

      If we all commanded respect by presenting ourselves as though we cared about intellect and personality and being good people, then only the few sleaze-ball men that deserve it would be singled out.


      The analysis of other cultural approaches to this issue are interesting. But there’s not enough space here to discuss it all.

  3. You bring up alot of points, I’m only going to respond to one for now. I agree with you that objectification is not the same as rape. Rape is (often) a random and very violent crime. It is always wrong. It is never a womans fault.

    What I said and meant though was the it is in the same line of thought. A lack of respect for women and a feeling of.. hmm, well, entitlement to a womans body follow the same thinking. Most rapes are actually performed by someone the woman knows, often a boyfriend or a date. If we allow people (men?) to think that objectification is mainly the womans fault or that she, with her clothes, is actually signaling “who cares about my brain? Tell me I’m the sexiest girl you know ” – we are (as you say) taking away the womans brains, smarts, and right to have a say.

    I’ve heard many people say or hint that a girl who dresses provocatively or is open about her sexuality on a first date “deserves” or “had it coming” to be raped by her date or boyfriend. Sometimes I think it has something to do with the human body being sexualized and made tabu, as if the sight of skin or cleavage gives people some sort of entitlement or sends some sort of message, when really the woman didn’t mean to express that specific message about her body and her ideals.

    I agree that we are all to blame. The issue is problematic and runs in an “evil cycle.” We can’t blame one specific entity, media, men, women, etc, and each re nforces the other.


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