“If you don’t sit down RIGHT NOW you’re not getting dessert!”

This is another meaningless threat that parents make toward their children in a half-hearted attempt at parenting. Parents have a great deal of responsibility! Do we need more unruly babies that grow up to drive drunk, start fights, torture kittens, assault strangers on college campuses, treat people poorly and become burdens to our culture and planet? No.

You’ve seen bad parenting in public: that child being dragged away from the snack isle after throwing a public tantrum about Scooby Doo gummy snacks, those frightened looking children with a backpack-like leash on at the zoo. Bad parents are oblivious to the fact that their child negatively effects EVERYONE within the vicinity of their precious little monster. And that’s what I’d like to talk about– oblivious non-parenting.

If only the parents were lending a helping hand 16 years ago...

If only the parents were lending a helping hand 16 years ago...

My recent experience as a server: It’s dinner rush on Friday and I’m waiting on a table of Mom, Dad and three urchins. We, as servers, are moving fast and I come around the corner out of the kitchen with a HUUUUGE tray piled with dishes on my shoulder, supported by both hands and my visibility is limited. I’m barreling down the aisle managing this heavy tray and out pops urchin #3 from my table into my path in the middle of the aisle. I barely dodge him to avoid pummeling him and luckily another server helped to recover my tray full of food before it tipped, crashed, and shattered. Every employee in the restaurant stopped and noticed. A minimum of twelve guests stopped to stare open-mouthed in amazement. The Mom and Dad? They glanced up from their Blackberries for a second, looked bored and continued with their mobile business without a comment.

Over the past two generations, parents have dropped the ball! And knowing right and wrong parenting shouldn’t be difficult. We all HAD parents. And they had parents. Somewhere in there is a good example. Or maybe you could ask a friend. And if that doesn’t work, you can google the words “responsible parenting.” Check out the responsible parenting initiative!

If the main biological point of having children is to leave a legacy or to further your gene pool, what’s the point of having monsters that grow up to be a detriment to society?! Have parents become too lazy? Do they have too much on their plate? Has contraception failed us? Do parents care about the quality of their offspring? The real problem now is getting bad parents to REALIZE that they’re bad parents. They’re oblivious!

It is hard for me not to constantly think about the dumbing down of the gene pool that is featured in the 2006 movie Idiocracy. While it is a humorous film, the concept scares the hell out of me! I come from a family where throwing a temper tantrum was just not an option. I didn’t know what the consequence would be, but I knew that I DID NOT WANT TO FIND OUT. But this newer generation acts completely impervious to laws, rules and consequences. Where have all the parents gone?!

Parents: You are wholly responsible for the behavior of your children! If you don’t become a responsible parent, I WILL turn this car around and Santa is not bringing you anything but coal for Christmas (or maybe Parenting for Dummies)!



  1. My thoughts exactly!

  2. Hear Hear!

  3. Hey “bad parenting” ? Have seen it.
    At some point parents feel powerless over their children as well. Why? Becasue we have all been brainwashed into talking things over with the kids. Well actions speak louder than words ! I don’t mean beat them to a pulp, take away a liberty, put them in a room where your behavior bothers them.
    Cari, you are in a “family restaurant” I think. Some mishaps are to be expected.

  4. It’s funny because my mom I think has been developing poor parenting skills. When I (and I’m assuming most of the people reading this) was growing up we didn’t have cell phones. So my sister is at one of her volleyball games (my sister is 14) and at the end of the game my mom&stepdad are calling my sister’s cell phone profousely and she doesn’t answer because her phone is in her bag…well long story short and omitting a few other things just to prove a point but this is what I told my mother…If you lose YOUR child in the SAME gym that you are in that is your fault. You never lost me and I didn’t have a cell phone. You can’t rely on a cell phone to make that your indefinite child tracker. What if the battery dies? What if there is no service in that area? Keep an eye on your child!

  5. As a person who works directly with college students I can tell you that everyday I see first hand just how bad parenting is getting. Only being 5 years older then this year’s group of Freshman I didn’t really think that there would be that big of a difference between my morals/values and theirs but I have been GREATLY mistaken. These young adults who will eventually enter the “real” world and be our leaders are lacking some vital character traits. For example; integrity, compassion, civility, and respect. Why do I have all of these things and they don’t, because I am a product of good parenting and they clearly are not. I fear for our future!

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